Tuesday, December 14, 2010

It's Grim, and It's a Fairy Tale

Once upon a time there was a beautiful princess who had too many deep-rooted self-esteem issues (which she blamed on her mother) to know that she was beautiful.

But I digress, already.

Anyway, the beautiful princess met a handsome prince and they immediately fell in love. In a breach of fairy tale protocol, the beautiful princess soon became pregnant and gave birth to the loveliest baby in all the land. After a year of arguing over their marital status, the beautiful princess and the handsome prince were married in a moderately beautiful ceremony due to the fact that the handsome prince ruined the beautiful princess' wedding; nonetheless, the nuptials were legally binding. After a brief honeymoon, the couple got into their 2004 Oldsmobile Alero and drove off into the suburban sunset.

They lived in their castle-esque brick cape cod for five years. During those years, the beautiful princess remained true to her marriage vows and tried to be a good wife, despite the opposition she routinely received from the handsome prince.

Then, one day, in another breach of fairy tale protocol, the handsome prince confessed to the beautiful princess that he had been having a 10-month affair. However, the handsome prince "chose" the beautiful princess over the commoner with tattoos and a nose piercing.

Somehow, the handsome prince no longer seemed so handsome.

After much thought, debate, and language inappropriate for a fairy tale, the beautiful princess filed for divorce from the no-longer-so-handsome prince.

The beautiful princess retained her dignity. She also got a great divorce settlement.

And the beautiful princess lived happily ever after.



Post Edit: You have to read the second comment below. It's hilarious, and the class is astounding!

38 comments:

  1. The beautiful princess did the right thing and set a good example for her children.

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  2. Sweetheart if you think it was only 10 months then jokes on you. I know of at least 5 different young ladies he was sleeping with on the side from 2006 - Present day. So dont go around bragging about your settlement , he played you for a fool. maybe if you would have kept him satisfied he wouldnt have to sneek out and have me take care of him ;)xoxoxo bitch

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  3. Wow, what anger you have! However, it is flattering that you care enough about me to follow my blog! I'm very sorry, though, because I don't accept advice from women without the moral fiber and/or sense to stay away from married men.

    Also, because you speak of jokes and fools, just remember that Karma is right around the corner for you. I truly wish you the best when you encounter it.

    Blessings,
    Melissa

    P.S. Nothing written anonymously is ever considered credible. Additionally, I'm sorry if I offended you by calling you a commoner; it just fit in with the fairy tale theme.

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  4. Wonderful story. Would have liked to hear a little bit more about the Alero though.

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  5. Love you, Karl! Just so you're happy...per the settlement, he has possession of the Alero until April 30th. It has a broken wheel bearing and a missing passenger side mirror. And the trunk doesn't close properly for some reason that I don't understand but that is connected to the mirror situation. Merry Christmas!

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  6. Now the fairy tale is complete - I was stressing over these details. Have a great Christmas!

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  7. BTW - wasn't the Alero the conception vehicle? Because if it was, everyone could then comprehend the significance and impact of it.

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  8. No, Karl, I'm sorry but it was the Thunderbird. I hope this doesn't ruin your holiday for you!

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  9. What was with the "wink" and XO's? A cyber twitch to visually display the insanity?

    I never understood the mentality of "the other woman". Pure desperation? To know the man is married but to fool yourself in thinking he loves you when you were nothing but a fling shows some hard core low self esteem issues and then to admit there were others besides yourself, showing you are well aware that he could not possibly love you and claim you are so special he broke his vows, damn, I'm sorry Melissa, this chic managed to make me feel more sorry for her than you. At least your self esteem isn't so low you have to hitch on married men then harass their wives/ex wives.

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  10. If everyone was aware...Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage...Everyone would have the strength an courage to remain true to their love!? Hmm?
    nick

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  11. Thanks, Nick. It's just too bad none of that existed in my relationship.

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  12. Anonymous #2, You should get to you mental health professional immediately and tell him/her that you are so screwed up you are proud to be part of a harem that sleeps with married men. You should also tell him/her that you have a HUGE anger issue towards a woman who did nothing to you except be married to a man you were sleeping with. Why are you still so angry? And why are you still harassing this woman? Girl, you are one hot mess! Make sure you take an extra dose of your psych meds today. Debbie

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  13. Anonymous #2, Do you feel ashamed reading everyone's comments? And I know you are reading them because if you have had enough time to stalk Melissa and stumble upon her well written story, then you must be checking back often. Is harassing the innocent how you get your kicks? This seems like a classic story where a bully harasses someone else because deep down they are jealous of what their victims have. Melissa has friends who have thoroughly beaten you down with words. And what do you have? You only have memories of a married man who dumped you. Delaney

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  15. I have seen it all now! I can't believe the dumped girlfriend of a married man would call out the wife on her own blog or anywhere else. Get this straight - Missy was the WIFE and you were the SLUT. Don't ever forget that. And Missy, thank God you left him - look at the kind of trash he was with! You keep right on talking about your settlement. You can do anything you want now. No fool could ever get that kind of a settlement, but only a fool would think a married man was in love with her!I love you, Bert

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  16. And I loved your story! You're such a good writer. You should write a book like everyone tells you!!!!

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  17. Dear Anonymous,
    I've been debating for two days about whether I should address your quite inappropriate comment. I feel trepidation in doing this because you so clearly crave attention, and there is nothing I want less in life than to give you what you want.
    However, I decided that I needed to comment because of your use of the term "ladies" to describe the women you claim to have been intimate with Melissa's husband. Those females (including you)certainly are not ladies. You know all the many terms for what they are, so I won't list them, but all of you certainly have self-esteem issues, and it seems that you, in particular, also have some mental health issues.
    Conversely, "lady" is the perfect term to describe Melissa. She treats everyone with kindness and is generous and hospitable to all. She respects marriage and has a solid moral code. Melissa would never even think of writing a comment such as yours, as evidenced by her response to you. In short, Melissa has class, and that class eminates from her in everything she does. How sad for you that you are not more like her.
    Traci

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  18. It's absolutely crazy to me that I was emailed this blog by some person I do not know. I'm presuming that all who commented on this blog are assuming that I must be anonymous...I'm not sure if this is a let down, but the first I'm seeing this blog is in the email I was just sent from Debbie. I honestly don't care enough to be stalking anyone. But then again I could be wrong. Just wondering why this was even emailed to me if that weren't the case. Anyway, I guess now I'd be more concerned about who anonymous is. Hope all can have a Merry Christmas.

    Kori

    p.s. I would never portray myself as anonymous.

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  19. Nice try, Kori, but I happen to KNOW that you still care. Respectable effort though. Probably what I would do too if I regretted writing something so tacky. Gina

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  20. Too often, our own ego feels the need to point the finger toward something that is of one's imagination. It then becomes contagious. Soon everyone is pointing fingers to thwart the truth. Think outside the box. Often the correct answer is the most obvious choice, but not always.

    Perception is reality; you make make your own, or you can seek the truth.

    Sophie

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  21. Okay, all of this needs to stop now. Negativity breeds negativity, and I don't think any of us needs that in our lives.

    I'm thankful for my precious family and friends who felt the need to defend me. You are priceless.

    I think we all know the truth, but I really don't care who "Anonymous" is. It doesn't matter. We are divorced and my freedom and divorce settlement prove that I won, just as I always do.

    Once again, thank you to everyone who defended me. I love you all, and always remember that I CHERISH YOU!

    Blessings to all,
    Melissa

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  22. Miss - I know you want this to be over, so I won't say all the nasty things I have to say about Kori...excuse me, "Anonymous"...but I have to tell you what I think of you...I don't know how you always manage to maintain grace and dignity and I want to be just like you!! I love you - Shel

    And kudos on the divorce settlement...you are THE woman!

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  23. This is the best comments thread I've read in a while. Good luck to the wife.

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  24. Thanks for the warm wishes!

    This has been an interesting thread. I don't think I've ever read one quite like it.

    There's always something going on in my life and nothing is a secret to me (obviously), so I hope you stop by the blog again soon for some entertainment!

    Happy holidays,
    Melissa

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  25. You are amazing and you will always be the love of my life. Danny

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  26. Who do you think you are. I'm pretty sure this isn't the first marriage that you have failed at. But you always "win" remember? Congratulations on failing at another marriage, I'm sure your kids will understand when you tell them you couldn't please two different men enough to get them to stay even for the kids. The first time I saw I thought what the fuck is he thinking, she looks like the witch from the west on the yellow brick road. That's neither here nor there. The point is who posts a blog with some dumb ass story about a whore princess who is damaged goods and can't please men. Are you that bad in bed? That shit has to look like chip chopped ham by now. I don't get it. Please do everyone a favor and wash your mouth out with buckshot.

    Sincerely yours,
    The realist

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  27. Dear Realist,

    I don't understand some of what you're saying because of the terminology, but I'm pretty sure you are defending someone you love, and that is a sweet and admirable thing. Your loved one is lucky to have you.

    Blessings,
    Melissa

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  28. Thank you, dear Realist, for having me look at chipped-chopped ham a little differently. I am glad that you did not specify Isleys. To speak about someone the way you have just spoken about Melissa, there is obviously some deep-seeded anger. Melissa's response truly showed the kind of amazing person that she is, for I could not possibly read that and think that way.
    Women, generally, are not always good at picking the best kind of man, and maybe this is the case. Melissa seems to be quite the optimist, hoping for the best. (She even saw the best in your post!) It is no fault of her own that she her expectations for the future were met by men who could only pretend to complete with her. No woman should ever be slandered that way, dear Realist. You may call her blog "stupid", but you are reading it, right?

    Melissa,
    You seem to be a woman with a good head on her shoulders. I hope that you are every bit as wonderful in real life as you are on this blog. Thank you for your stories and your viewpoints; I like the suggestion that you should write a book! I hope your Holiday is filled with great cheer!

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  29. LOL at the realist...what trash...just like Ko...sorry, "Anonymous"...and he or she (God forbid) probably doesn't even know what trash they are! And once again, there you are...the picture of graciousness...total trash vs. total grace. And since when did the wife become the whore? The married woman doing the married man is the whore...everyone-except the realist-knows that! Can't stop laughing at the stupidity! Shel

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  30. Dear Anonymous,

    Thank you so much for your kind words! I am so happy that you enjoy my blog and I hope that you visit often.

    May you have joy and peace during the holidays and always. (Sounds like a Christmas card, doesn't it?)

    Blessings,
    Melissa

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  31. REALIST, HOW SAD YOU ARE.YOUR COMMENT IS WRONG ON SO MANY LEVELS.WHY WOULD ANY ADULT DISCUSS WITH THEIR CHILDREN WHY THEIR MARRIAGE DID NOT WORK? YOUR CLASS WENT OUT THE DOOR JUST WITH THAT COMMENT ALONE, NOT TO MENTION THE VULGAR LANGUAGE IN WHICH IT WAS WRITTEN. THIS MAY GO BEYOND YOUR INTELLIGENCE, BUT THROUGHOUT HISTORY, THE OTHER WOMEN HAS ALWAYS COME OUT BEING THE BAD ONE. THIS WILL NEVER CHANGE BECAUSE MOST CIVILIZED PEOPLE WANT TO BELIEVE IN THEIR MARRIAGE VOWS. IN OTHER WORDS, TRUST BECOMES THE OPPERATIVE WORD IN A MARRIAGE,NOT WHAT ONE IS LIKE IN BED. SO YOU HONESTLY THINK IT IS OK FOR YOUR FRIEND TO SLEEP WITH A MARRIED MAN JUST BECAUSE SHE THINKS THE WIFE IS BAD IN BED? REALLY. HOW WOULD YOUR FRIEND KNOW THAT INFORMATION? MAYBE BECAUSE THE PERSON THAT TOLD HER THAT WANTED TO OBTAIN IMMEDIATE GRATIFICATION. THAT IS A MORE REALISTIC STORY THEN THE ONE YOU HAVE. I KNOW YOU THINK YOU ARE DEFENDING YOUR FRIEND, BUT BELIEVE ME, YOU ARE MAKING HER LOOK SO MUCH WORSE. PLEASE RECONSIDER YOUR COMMENT, YOU HAVE GOT TO THINK MORE OF YOURSELF THEN THAT. DEB

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  32. Dear ALL:I would like to make some general comments then share my thoughts with all of you involved and who are commenting on this issue. I always said I would not get involved in anyone's business but this whole blog/facebook/putting personal life stories on the internet to read is ludicrous.This type of behavior is not healthy and I personnally believe is ignorant to do by anyone, especially comments as hurtful and down right terrible as I have read above. There are so many people, especially kids that are involved here and need to look up to their adult parents and friends for support in such trying times and especially personal relationships like a divorce. I ask why would you want to publicize any of this? I dont see any benefit to anyone to be dragging this out in this format.
    I will not hide my identity, you will know who I am, and I welcome you all to call me and/or visit me if you feel the need. I will not do it on a blog like this ever again, but feel the need to express myself thru this blog.
    Melissa; I think you know we share mutual friends and one relative through marriage.I understand you being upset at Kori and I have read all the above. I think everyone's emotions has gotten the better of them, and without a doubt, have been expressed in this blog and e mails. This should end and everyone needs to move forward. Apparently you both have friends and family who love you very much. I think you all need to lean on them to get thru these divorces. I will say some positive things about Kori as my views. I have read and heard positive things about you as well above and from a friend of yours. Kori was separated and met your husband and they had an affair. You are divorced and hers is about to be final. As you know, divorce is like death and it affects so many people. Especially the kids and close family members. But I think everyone needs to put their emotions aside and move forward for the betterment of themselves first, then the kids and family members and then friends. I see Kori as a loving Mom with two very young daughters. She has been a Mom for 10+ years and not even 30 yet. She has to provide for her kids as a single Mom and so far has been doing an admirable job. She has obtained a real estate license and is going back to college. She is doing this for the betterment of her kids and herself. However , I am prejudice because I think the world of Kori. I dont care what happened in the past and nor should she. Yes I would love to be a part of Kori's life because I see the beauty in her character, and I will not judge her past or present- who am I to judge or anyone to judge anyone, that is God's job.
    I know she realizes she made a mistake now by getting involved with your husband. She is truly sorry and it was just a bad move at a bad time. But it happened and you all have moved forward, and I think the healthy thing to do is forget about the past, and "let it go".I am not an expert by any means, I am just trying to speak my peace and hopefully all of you will sit back and analyze the situation and find some peace in your heart to live for today and tomorrow. Life is short, enjoy it! (Of course I think I am much older than most of you.) Good luck in your future and I hope you all are healed of this event and take this of for the world to see. It is not healthy. Merry Christmas and may you all have a Happy New Year!
    P.S. Just remember, I will not respond anymore on a blog/e mail, ETC. I am old and old fashioned. I think you know how to get ahold of me if need be. GOD BLESS YOU ALL. Jim

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  33. Dear Jim,

    Thank you for your wonderful comment!

    I am not sure I know who you are, but you seem to be a very nice man who is defending someone about whom you care deeply. As I always have said, that is admirable.

    You do have some of your facts wrong, though. I will not go into them because that is not my place, but I certainly hope that you are told the truth someday.

    In response to your feeling about putting personal items on my blog, I will tell you that I always have been an open and honest person who shares everything in my life. I do not regret doing so in this situation. Since I posted this story, numerous people have emailed me or called me to thank me for "going public" about a subject most consider taboo. They have poured out their hearts to me and that means the world to me.

    As far as my children are concerned, my husband has explained the situation in an age-appropriate manner. We don't lie to children in our family because we ARE a family. Of course, that is a decision that each person must make for his/her own family. Neither decision is right or wrong because every family is unique.

    Your advice to "let it go" is excellent; however, everyone does that differently. Some people jump right into another relationship. I am a writer so, naturally, I write. That will continue, and this probably will not be my last post regarding this situation in my life.

    Please remember that the only name I made public here is my own. Others chose to put their own names on a public forum.

    Once again, thank you for your comment; it was a pleasure to read!

    Happy holidays,
    Melissa

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  34. Melissa has been a wonderful example to our children. I can only hope that we can continue to be the best of friends as we raise our daughter. I wish her all the happiness as she moves forward with her life without me. I would have given her anything in our dissolution for the pain that I have caused her. I hope that she continues to be the strong person that she has shown throughout this. Danny

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  35. She has been simply....amazing. i loved being her husband and wish she would allow me to be, AGAIN.
    Danny

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  36. Dear Jim,
    I tried to contact you another way, but no one knows who you are. Neither Melissa nor her family knows you are are, and no one in our circle of friend knows either.
    I only want to comment on the list you stated of your friend's "accomplishments". If you are a member of Melissa's family, then you know that she also is raising two daughters as a single mother and doing an amazing job. Both of her daughters are honor students and excel at all their extra-curricular activities.
    If you are a part of Melissa's family, then you know that she is so brilliant she skipped a year of high school and was a secondary English teacher AND an attorney by the time she was your friend's age (all while raising a young child by herself). I'm sure you also know that she recently became a Licensed Nursing Home Administrator. She is so motivated she never stops.
    If you've ever met Melissa, you know that she has morning and evening prayer with her children and she gives ten percent of her gross income--every month whether she has it or not--to charity. She says the extra money in her checking account just shows up when she does what it is right. You must know that for the last four years she has taken care of her mother with Alzheimer's Disease in her home and she does it the same way she does everything else: graciously.
    If you've ever met Melissa, you know that she is one of the most genuine, honest, and admirable people you've ever been blessed to meet.
    Melissa is truly an incredible woman and your friend and her "acomplishments" can't even begin to compare to Melissa and her accomplishments.
    Traci

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  37. Okay, "The Realist" made me laugh so hard, I mean who says that? Really? I mean, did that come from the bowels of their soul or what? I get the impression you dig through your own shite for recycling purposes. Nasty stuff. Dirty business you must be in to go to someones blog and share your thoughts/dung with people.

    And what's up with Jim? Really (again). Not sure why you would come to someone's blog and defend a person who is acting like they don't know a thing.

    I have no idea if Kori is The Realist or the other way around. Think it's a bit trashy for either one/or in the same for them/her to be posting here.

    And let us not forget, it is Melissa's blog, are you kidding me, she can post whatever she wants and it's really not up to some arse kissing man to defend the trash that had an affair with a married man. Any woman who ever feels the need to have an affair with a married man is trash, no excuse, none. Get off the horse you rode in on and wade through the shite you just dumped on everyone and tell me it doesn't stink, what a hypocrite!

    I have no couth so I can say as I please and poor Melissa knows this...LOL!

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  38. I'm so sorry you had this experience. Being betrayed by someone you trust is never pleasant. It hurts. But I'm glad you got out of this ugly situation. You are still standing, Darlin', and I'm glad you are.

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